Hey, guys…

I am so, so, SO sorry for how late this blog post has gone up. But I figure since it’s just a bunch of journal entries, you guys can read it anytime you want.

 

Anyway, I wrote about quite a few things this past week. Per usual, I hope you enjoy!

 

Shit I Did Last Week #13:

Attention is the Currency, NOT the Goal

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Wednesday 

Constructive Criticism 

Hello! And welcome to another post in my weekly blog series. Almost forgot to write tonight but remembered right before my eyes slammed shut. 

 

I spent the majority of the evening after work today filling out applications. Only 2, but I wanted to make sure they were good. 

 

Then I had a thought. 

 

GaryVee (I know I reference him a lot) says he loves it when people rag on him. For one, he loves the process of what he does that much… and two, it means he’s doing something worth talking about. 

 

We are pretty kind to each other in the blogging community, which is great. But I think it makes us reluctant to give constructive criticism when it’s necessary.  

 

Shoot, I’m the one suggesting it and even I’m afraid to ‘be that asshole’, y’know? 

 

Maybe it’s because we don’t want to come across like we’re trolling or playing devil’s advocate, or being negative and nit picky 

 

But I think that in trying to keep that stuff out of our community, we leave ourselves susceptible to actual trolls… the real assholes. 

 

Maybe we need to get a little tougher, stop smiling and nodding when we really wanna give our sisters a nudge in the right direction.  

 

There is something to be said for the whole the world won’t be easy on you, so I can’t either mindset. I mean, people take it way too far- use it as an excuse to be awful. But there is some truth in it…  

 

… hmmm…  

 

Until tomorrow <3. 

Thursday 

Feeling Stuck (Again- Plus Some Shitty Orange Pen) 

Blurb: I wish I didn’t have to write in this shitty orange-ass pen. But none of my pencils are sharp and I can’t find a regular pen. And I refuse to get out of bed yet.  

 

At least it’s erasable. 

 

It’s nearly bedtime for Bonzo…  

 

… I mean me… I’m Bonzo…  

 

Anyway, I had a pretty good voice lesson and now I’m feeling great. It’s hard to believe that only 5 or 6 hours ago I was feeling hopeless and stuck. 

 

Story of my life, right? 

 

Then someone shared something in a group chat that I really loved: 

We really don’t give ourselves enough slack sometimes. 

 

I know I’m always talking about self-care being more than bath bombs and face masks, but sometimes that stuff is important, too. 

 

So go ahead… binge-watch that new Netflix show. Eat that cookie. Buy that seemingly useless chachki that’s a splurge but makes you smile.  

 

Me? I’ll be treating myself to some vegan cake… maybe see if I can get me some red moscato 😉. 

 

Until tomorrow <3. 

Friday 

S.A.D. … or something like it. 

Not much to say tonight.  

 

That’s not a bad thing, mind you. It just is what it is. I feel peaceful right now. 

 

Although, I will say that I’m having some trouble waking up in the mornings. Waking up, focusing, etc. … general malaise. 

 

And as I’ve mentioned in other posts, I’m working on building some writing samples, so I can start a little freelance writing hustle.  

 

As someone with a personal interest in mental health, wellness, and heathy living, I’ve decided to do a research blog post/article on coping with S.A.D. 

 

Keep in mind that I haven’t been specifically diagnosed with S.A.D., but I’m one of many people who have to be careful around the Autumn and Winter months. People with preexisting mental illnesses or mood disorders are at a higher risk for decline, so it’s not uncommon for those of us already seeking treatment to have to adjust. 

 

Example: I take meds for my anxiety, so I’ll probably talk about tweaking my dosage or adding something to supplementI’m also going to see what I can do about getting a light therapy box, meditating and practicing my yoga all before I start my day 

 

But what about those of us who aren’t already seeking treatment? The signs and symptoms of S.A.D. are a lot like depression (Seasonal depression is another term for S.A.D.).  

 

If you’re one of those people who doesn’t suffer from depression year-round, you might not take your ‘winter blues’ seriously 

 

So my goal with this article (besides getting noticed by health & wellness publications) will be to encourage people to ask questions about the state of their mental health. And maybe, through their observations of themselves, someone will be inspired to seek help.  

 

So, yeah… be on the lookout for that. I’ll probably post it on LinkedIn, but I’ll link it back to the blog when it’s published. 

 

Until tomorrow <3. 

Saturday 

Acrylic Nails and Vegan Donuts 

Two things…  

 

One, I got my nails done, so I’m happy. Two, Roots Market now carries vegan donuts, so I’m HAPPY!!!! 

 

But I also bought some vegan cupcakes to take to a Movie/CAH Party, so now I’ve had entirely too much sugar. Oh, AND I’ve got work tomorrow. Sleeping is gonna be so much fun. 

 

Other than that, nothing super exciting to say besides: Fuck, I’m really happy to be creating again. 

 

I really feel like my efforts are starting to pay off with everything I’m doing. I’m getting some traffic to my website; some brands have started reaching out…  

 

I’m still mulling over what direction I wanna go in, so nothing is concrete yet. But it just goes to show that when you fall in love with your process, the other stuff followsYou define your own success.  

 

There’ll be days when I feel differently- defeated, broken, unsatisfied. But today, right now, I’m winning. 

 

Until tomorrow <3. 

Sunday 

Attention is the Currency, But Not the Goal 

 

I did A LOT of work on that S.A.D. article today, and I think it’ll be good once I edit and add media.  

 

Like I said, it’ll be published on LinkedIn, but it’ll be linked back here for you guys to read once it’s done. 

 

I found some useful info that could really help some people, especially as we get into the winter season. 

 

Other than that, I basically binge-watched Kendall Rae’s conspiracy and crime videosThose things are addicting. You should check her out if you’re interested in that kind of stuff.  

 

And now, here’s a thought…  

 

Most people do things for recognition these days. Everyone’s got a dog in the fight, a what’s in it for me? type of thought process. 

 

Which, hey, some of the world’s biggest attention-seekers have made incredible strides on social issues. If it works, who cares why they’re doing it, right? That’s between them and their HP (Higher Power).  

 

Well, I don’t want to be one of those people. It makes me feel gross thinking about it, to be honest. 

 

Practically speaking, I know that attention is a new form of currency. If you ain’t got the money to invest, you need attention to raise awareness about whatever it is you do. Depending on what it is, the money will start coming in from there.  

 

I don’t want the social things I do to be attached to my self-interested creations… does that make sense? 

 

There’s stuff I want to do for myself- gaining my autonomy, working for myself, and designing a lifestyle that I love. 

 

But I don’t NEED to be the next Oprah Winfrey to be happy (although that would be INCREDIBLE). And I don’t want to be glorified for things I feel like we should all be doing for society. 

 

If you need an ego boost every time you donate to charity, you might wanna ask yourself if you’d still be doing it without the hype 

 

Dat’s jus me, doe.  

 

Until tomorrow <3. 

Monday 

Job Interviews 

I had 2 job interviews today. 

 

Well, one was an interview, the other was more like an inquiry turned application. 

 

My mom likes to say, “If you keep a few irons in the fire, one of them will eventually get hot.” 

 

That’s a great way to look at things, don’t you think? I mean, why limit yourself to one thing? You only live once, why waste it only on one path? 

Tuesday 

Yoga, Meditation, and Making Life Changes 

One smoothie, half a bag of chips, and two servings of ice cream later…  

 

That was basically what I ate today. No regrets 

 

But I also did 20 minutes of yoga and 20 minutes of meditation. And it really helps.  

 

I think this’ll become part of my daily routine. Mainly because when I woke up today- in the early afternoon, by the way– I could feel the monotony of the day starting to set in, suffocating me. 

 

But doing the meditation and moving through the yoga brought me some peace. 

 

So, I’m going to start integrating all of this into my life… let’s see how this goes. 

 

<3 

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Lol admittedly, I’m trying to make you laugh. My interpretation of a well-known #philosophicalquote . . But seriously, we are BOMBARDED with each others’ opinions these days. I get it, sometimes it’s hard to hold your tongue. But ffs… when was the last time we just stfu and listened? . As hard as I find it to keep my opinions to myself sometimes, I really do value listening & learning above most things. I think it’s our only way out of our own bullshit as society and as the human race. But of course, what do you think? Or maybe you just wanna take that concept in… . Disclaimer: NOT directed at men as a gender. It’s just a play on a quote. . . . . #adaraven #thatsinginveganchick #bossgirlbloggers #bloggerlife #lifestyleblog #lifestyles #singinveganchic #personalblog #WellnessWednesday #journaling #diary #ShitIDidLastWeek #philosophyquotes #askquestions #staywoke

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2 Replies to “Attention is the Currency, NOT the Goal”

  1. I agree that constructive criticism is important. I’ve especially found this to be true in writing workshops. Sometimes it hurts, but someone in a workshop is going to be much kinder than a random reviewer on Amazon! That said, I like your approach to writing; you have an authentic voice and I also like the images throughout your site. I did feel, though, that the layout is a bit cluttered, and it took me a while to figure out that I needed to scroll all the way to the bottom to find the comments section. Just a thought.

    1. Hi! Thank you so much for your feedback. I agree, people who empathize with what you’re trying to do will be much nicer and, ultimately, more helpful. Your comment is a perfect example :). I really appreciate your feedback and will definitely look into cleaning up the layout.

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